I am totally agitated when it comes to adults scolding their children especially their teenagers at home. Moreover they need their help in assisting somethings at home and no rebellious or ‘no’ was given from the teenager side and somehow certain parents have to raise their voice over certain not so practical stuff. Its totally bothering me to witness certain issues like those and it is super annoying. Come on lar.
Everyone can be talk to, dont have to raise your voice. Just because god gave you such long lives doesn not mean you have to fulfilled it with a lot of scoldings and nagging. Why not centralise you existence on earth towards something more nice and sweet and be that someone whom people love and will obey instructions towards.
Its a no wonder that many teenagers nowadays tend to be out of their house or rather spend their time outside then with their parents. Both have flaws but i must say that parents play the major inflluence over your kids live. What they become is majorly because of you. Time have change and certain concern and needs may not be necessary in these days to come. Sometimes teen simply need that attention towards the modern stuff. Why not. Its not like they are taking drugs or ganja. Just show them some real attention.
Love. Define parental love. Is it the fact that :
[1]parents cook their children their fave dishes are to be considered that love are already being showered and thats it?
[2]Or simply parents keep calling their kids asking for their whereabouts and wanting them to be at home as to create a more homely feeling but when the kids are at home, they are simply left unattended as the parents either talk on the phone or sleep
[3]Or maybe buying for the kids clothing according to what they want them to wear like an L size for a S size teen, reason is that they can recycle that shirt when they become bigger?
This are just some of the minor examples when actually its a big no-no at all. This is not the 80s parents. Allow your teens to make some decision for themselve. You guys had live your teenage years so let them lead theirs.
Go with them to outings like snow city, zoo or have a fmaily karaoke session or play pool together between father and son. Go for beach outing. Dont just restrict to helping out in the kitchen all time or watch tv only or even worse just stay in house doing nothing.
If you guys can walk out of the house with a gucci handbag and dressed up to occasion but when your child wants something that he’she may prefer but was denied even thought its not the parents who are paying, where is the love here? Dear parents, what kids or teens want may not be what you guys want back at your time. Do Expose them to the world yet knowing the limits and boundaries. Bring them to a whole new mindset and someone who will accept others for who they are and not corrupting their minds with negative feedbacks on certain people or culture just because the parents are brought up that way. You guys have to understand we are not living with just a simple you and me. We are living in a world full of colourful personalities ranging from straight to gays, lesbianism to machoism, metrosexuals to nerds and all sorts of other possible character. You have to educate your kids not to discriminate those who may act differently than what you believe is the right thing.
Teenagers nowadays have their own brains which are influence by the environment they are at. They will know what is right and what is wrong. You guys cry when you kids end up at detention barrack or jails for minor and stupid offences and you guys can say that the kids are too secretive, avoid them at home and become like that due to the influence of their friends.
Think again. You want to know what most or infact major percentage of detainees replied as to whay they became like that. Basic reason, the parents dont understand them. How? Like when they have to stay back in school to visit the library or hangout for a while with their frens at a cafe, their parents forbid them and expect them to be at home and when they are at home, they are left stagnant meaning the parents just do their own business. They just want their kids to be in contact near them.
They say, parents refuse to listen to them and think their mindset and reasoning are not the best. And hence the teenagers are left silent and no one really to talk to, at home other than their school mates who may not know the bestest solution but at least they listen. But they are some negative influence as well because some frens may just corrupt their minds into drugs and such. The bottom root is, parents have to learn to be understanding and speak the children lingo. Stop trapping them in this small cube like how your time back in the 70s and the 80s were being brought up.
If you guys are so keen to teach your children and discipline them and educate them to what a parent of the past may behave, why not throw all your gucci, prada, dolce and gabbana dresses and start wearing polka dots every single day, like the past. At least that shows that you guys are keen in teaching your kids to be really like how you were treated back then.
Remember just because they are some things that you cannot get when you are young like watching cinemas muliptles times in a week even with your own money does not give you the rights to forbid todays teens form doing so.
BEHAVE LIKE HOW A PARENT SHOULD BEHAVE WITHOUT COMPROMISING IN LOVE, UNDERSTANDING AND TRUST TOWARDS THEIR KIDS.
Love and understanding can accumulate but if a parent’s trust towards a teen is not there, dont blame them when they go stray.
